I was having this discussion last night with an old friend. We both have kids now his are a little older than mine, but we started talking about what our parents told us about sex vs what we will tell our kids about sex. Parents hold these views for a number of reasons. Some for religious convictions and others for emotional protection for their kids. So tell me your honest views and what you did or would tell your kids.
I remember my Mom telling me that sex was about love and something that should be saved for marriage. My Dad had similar views, but was a little more realistic about it. Basically, he preferred that I wait until I was older (20's I presume) and in love. Although, he pointed out that he felt like that waiting until marriage was best. I love and respect my parents opinions, but I didn't listen to their opinions on sex all that much. Until I got to my mid 20's then I started to settle down a bit and wanted sex to be more about love.
Fast forward to today. My wife probably holds views similar to my Dad, but possibly a little closer to my Mom. Looking back at my experiences I'm not sure where I fall yet. This list is still subject to change. I may say have sex only with someone you love, but if I am being honest I think the biggest things for me to emphasize to my kids would be.
1. Wait till you're out of high school to have sex becuase I don't want someone knocked up and have the harsh realities of raising a kid at a young age. Giving up their dreams and what kind of life they might of had.
2. Don't **** crazy.
3. Be smart. Don't put your self in bad situations. Don't be a fool wrap your tool.
4. Don't cheat.
5. Limit emotional stress. Make sure that you're both in it for the same things. If it's for love make sure your love is returned. If it's for fun make sure they are in it for fun.